Oh .... mate.

Jesus Christ, where to begin.  Mrs X is an absolute fool.

Oh yes, she does need to be disciplined...

It's only a matter of time before our prurient correspondent pops up below the line to demand mechanical specifics about the ins and outs (if you will) of the affair.

Rightly or wrongly, her professional reputation at screwed for the rest of her career at K+L

Reminds me of this regarding two of my former colleagues https://www.rollonfriday.com/feature-content/dwf-caught-cuckolds-tweetrage still brilliant!!! 

If there was a "great strain" on their marriage before, I wonder what things are like at home now!

Heh. Fair play to Mrs X. Punchy.

And £150k on cosmetics?! These millennials are crazy. 

Its only a matter of time before our repressed correspondent pops up below the line to try to shut down any questions relating to sex. Oh, too late.

Not sure its the trainee who needs protecting!

The trainee should have pre-empted this and claimed harrassment - collect a nice big payout and enjoy everyone's sympathy rather than have to basically have her legal career (particularly at K&L Gates) ended.

(and yes, I've seen it happen before)

Mrs X named the trainee in her email, and included a large picture of the other woman just in case her workmates needed help placing her

!!! The whole thing is so insane it borders on parody.

A. No one can seduce you into breaking your wedding vows. It's fun to be desired but ultimately it's more fun to have a happy home life when your job is this stressful.

B. The trainee must have some sort of recourse to being outed in this manner. Wild that the wife did not email the all-staff alias but actually individuals to avoid the trainee seeing this.

C. The £150K. I don't know where to start with this.

D. What the hell is Mrs X doing that her husband is stepping out in the first place? Going solely on the email, perhaps being an insane, high strung woman who is detached from reality is a boner killer.

Can't wait to see the family Christmas card this year. 

Wow….Word of advice to Mrs X.  Your marriage is over.  Divorce him, let go and move on.  You’re an embarrassment to yourself if you stay with him.  Stop blaming the “other woman”.  It takes two to tango.

Was it definitely 'Mrs X' who wrote this?

Mr X's true love is drama.

Mrs X is clearly crazy (although I feel sorry for her).

I want to congratulate Mr X as not only has he managed to bed a model-looking trainee, but also, he managed to persuade his wife that its all the trainee's fault. That is gift of the gab right there.

Lad.

@10.18 - I think it would depend on whether or not the allegations are true as to whether the trainee would have any recourse.

It is quite entertaining to look at the trainees on LinkedIn and decide which it may be...

I prefer the creativity of this lady: https://www.rollonfriday.com/feature-content/hell-hath-no-fury-lawyers-partner-scorned

Seriously, no matter how unhappy you are in your marriage ... you should atleast split up before pursuing someone else. Everyone commending the trainee for infidelity should have a think about how they would feel if it happened to them. Also I thought background checks and pre employment screening would have picked up on her 'second career' as a lot of females turn to the likes of only fans these days

I hope this trainee gets her karma, no morals whatsoever drunk or sober,it doesn't cost anything to be kind... and treat others how you would like to be treated!!! 

I used to work at K&L Gates.  The firm was affair central.  This does not surprise me at all.  

@10.17 - a bit difficult to claim harassment and get a big payout for a consensual affair, although you're right, it does happen. Not likely to win much sympathy though.

The husband may be senior to the trainee in age, but was he her manager?

The trainee wasn't in a relationship so she was free to do as she liked. The associate is the one who had a commitment so not sure how it's the trainee's fault. Why are people suggesting that she did anything wrong? 

Mrs X needs to seek help, Mr X is an ass. He was unfaithful and cowardly. 

@11:14 - because she knew that he was married. bit like why there is a tort of inducing a breach of contract.

@11.14 - the husband was at fault because he was married. The trainee was at fault because she slept with a married man. We don't know if the trainee was in a relationship - if she was then she is at fault for sleeping with someone else while in a relationship and if she was and he knew then he was at fault for sleeping with someone in a relationship. Fault is due to actions, not gender or age. From what we know, Mrs X is the wronged party.

11:14

You don't go around sleeping with married men ... that is wrong

single females.. the ones who have sense, know better than to go around pursuing men in relationships or who are married.

Hold on, hold on - why is everyone assuming that's been said about the trainee is accurate?

We only have Mrs X's word for it, and all she knows about the trainee has come from Mr X who appears to be, on his own admission, duplicitous, mendacious, pond slime. Why should we believe anything that emanates from him?

I’ve seen the email. It wasn’t £150k, it ... equates to £15-20k. 
 

The funny thing was that she signed it Mrs X, but sent it from her personal email address, so it is pretty clear who the partner was. 

How did Mrs X know everyone's email address?

150k on cosmetics seems impossible, as does the idea of anyone at K&L Gates having a spare 150k - possibly Mrs X is a fantasist / nutter? 

@Hackaforte - its always a mistake to assume allegations are accurate, regardless of the gender of the person they are made about.

Mr X has made no such admissions.

He was married, she wasn't. Perhaps she does not subscribe to the whole monogomous lifestyle - we all have different attitudes to relationships, etc. She may not even know that he was supposed to be faithful but even if she did it was his vows and his relationship to preserve. There is no duty for people to safeguard somebody else's morality/promises/vows. 

@Anonymous 11:56

Granted, all we know about Mr X is also filtered through Mrs X, who on the available evidence doesn't seem to be in the best place right now. 

I'm not entirely clear why you're bringing gender into it, though. I can only assume that I've blundered into somebody else's culture war, in which case I'll bow out.

@Anon 11:51 - When you say "partner", do you mean who Mrs X's partner is or ... [sharp intake of breath] the husband is a Partner at the firm? 

I cannot imagine that Partners are subject to the whimsies, delights and pleasures of the human form like the rest of us mere mortals. 

:-)

This is not the first time we read how partners are being exploited, manipulated and abused by those vicious trainees leaving a trail of ruined careers and relationships. Isn't it time that the firms do something to protect the fragile partner community.

Blimey. Full time K&LG trainee and OnlyFans star - that's quite a varied caseload.

@12.02 - but she must have known his wife wouldn't have been happy if she found out. If the allegations are true the trainee is not blameless.

"Hold on, hold on - why is everyone assuming that's been said about the trainee is accurate?

We only have Mrs X's word for it, and all she knows about the trainee has come from Mr X who appears to be, on his own admission, duplicitous, mendacious, pond slime. Why should we believe anything that emanates from him?"

No, no, no. Stop right there.

You can't just come on here and ask questions about whether everything in an article should be taken entirely at face value. Allegations have been made, by a woman no less, and we're all to believe them without even a hint of cynicism entering into it. 

So a less of the polite questions about whether there might perhaps be a bit more too it than the lone uncorroborated source is letting on, if you please.

Or are you some kind of "Sealion" perhaps? Because what you're doing sounds a lot like what Sealions do. Whatever that is.

All we know for sure is that Sealions are the Oceans' greatest monsters.

That's how not to keep your husband (if he exists and the thing is not only a campaign against the trainee).

@ Anon 21 May 21 12:02

"There is no duty for people to safeguard somebody else's morality/promises/vows."

Is this CPD accredited?

If indeed it was Mrs X, Hackaforte.

The references to gender weren't directed to you but to those whose willingness to believe allegations depends on the gender of those against whom the allegations are made.

Saw the email. It’s not £150k - after currency conversion it’s £13k (go figure!). Also the trainee’s social media and LinkedIn still seems to be up and running! Interesting. 

Just wait until she finds out why it takes me 6 hours to play 18 holes.

@12.21 - the best thing they can do to protect partners and others is to reject dubious allegations and educate their staff on the differences between allegations and fact.

Mrs X lodging a complaint about the trainee with "the relevant Law Society"? If she means the SRA, I'm not sure she's thought that one through.

@11.51 - I don't think the intention was to keep the partner's identity secret for very long if it was his wife who sent it.

Mrs X sounds fun 

@Me, myself and I - if the email is true the husband wants to stay with the wife. But are you saying you think the email wasn't really from the wife of a member of staff, but someone pretending to be and with a grudge against the trainee for some other reason?

My first thought was someone (at the firm or outside) has to grind an axe with the trainee. Not necessarily some partner's wife, she would shoot herself in the foot.

I have seen this article so many times written to so many girls even outside of legal. Lol whoever believes this is so dumb

It depends what the complaint is about I suppose 13.20, but if its regarding an affair the SRA only look at male lawyers' private lives, and even that is less frequent after they got their bum smacked over Beckwith.

Did this happen under SRA jurisdiction?

I think the wife is having a mental breakdown and needs help - this is a terrible situation for the whole family, if indeed she did send it. She needs to be very mindful of the fact that she may get libel case winging its way to her. Damages for that would be far more than the £150,000 used for fillers and botox!

It would rather seem all the parties have behaved unwisely.

That said what possible interest could it be to your vulgar little Blog?

it seems a story of private peccadilloes of no general interest to other lawyers or persons interested in law - it is making a difficult situation much worse - and all for your prurient titillation.

I have never read a single interesting or intelligent Article on your blog.

the destruction of legal aid - demise of the small high street firm- urgent need for legal reform in so many areas to help the disadvantaged in our society- equality for all - would be rather more interesting topics.

Presumably you have neither the skill, Public interest or mental acuity to write about something more meaningful.

I don't want to piss on everyone's fireworks but have you considered that the sender might be someone who has a grudge against the trainee and has invented the story to damage her.

Men who get rejected can be very spiteful and bitter.

@14:37

Why are you using random uppercase and lowercase letters?

@Concerned! - truth is a defence to libel, so whether or not a libel case would be successful depends on whether or not the allegations in the email are true, among other things. And it seems that it wasn't £150k but 150k in another currency.

There was no post at 2.37

@14.37 - not a regular RoF visitor then?

@ 15:39, presumably because he/she/they have neither the skill, nor the interest, nor the mental acuity to use uppercase and lowercase letters in some sort of semi-consistent manner... 

"Men who get rejected can be very spiteful and bitter."

Yes, I suppose that we should all have guessed that a man would be behind all this in the end...

The true crime here is that wallpaper... perhaps Mrs X's taste in home decor is the same as her taste in men

Surely this is a hoax. 

@interested party - you obviously read it though...

@anon 21 May 21 10:41

>Also I thought background checks and pre employment screening would have picked up on her 'second career' as a lot of females turn to the likes of only fans these days

We are talking about millennials, so a second career on Only Fans is not only to be expected but also celebrated, especially in companies having Chief Millennial Officer positions. Rank amateurs use Tik Tok but only pros use Only Fans.

Me, myself and I @ 13.53 - possibly, but if so I wonder why they brought Mr X into it. Are you thinking it might have been a colleague who had designs on Mr X herself and was jealous of the affair?

Sounds like Mrs x is a little cross.

Anonymous 21 May 21 16:34

Yes, I suppose that we should all have guessed that a man would be behind all this in the end...

Well duh!  Same reason that women are taught to hold their keys in their fists when walking home alone or are fearful when out late at night or can't go jogging on some areas or at certain times for fear of being attacked.

Same reason women are reluctant to tell men they're not interested even when approached by strangers in public for fear of being attacked or publicly humiliated.

Same reason Piers Morgan is still obsessed with Meghan Markle.

Certain men have spent years learning techniques in how to fake and manipulate and force intimacy.

You people don't take indifference or rejection well.

Like the song says, boys will be boys but girls will be women.  You lot stay like children your whole lives.  A fake email from a jealous boy if a far more likely source than a spurned partners wife.

This is how it is, so yeah - fake email.

https://youtu.be/vwg_GEXgegk

14:37 has interesting use of English, similar to the email from the wife perhaps?

People cheated on who still love their spouse then to blame the other person and true to believe what their spouse told them as that is more convenient. Yet it is their spouse who committed adultery, not the spouse's lover.

How does the wife have the email addresses of everyone in the firm? Is that not some kind of data protection law breach or has she ploughed through all the linked in profiles of everyone in the firm and put that into some kind of database?

Spending £13k on cosmetics etc is the choice of the husband and presumably it is his money. or may be, as I did,  the wife out earns the husband many times over.

@14.94 - are you saying this is a well known hoax? Where else have you seen it?

@15.10 - as can women who get rejected. The sender might have been someone who had a grudge against the trainee, but that could just as easily be a jealous (or rejected) female as a rejected male.

Furthermore, it has been alleged that it was sent from Mrs X's own email account.

I don't think Mrs X has wallpapered their house with photos of the email or if a man with his hands over his mouth.

It takes two to tango and the amount of people saying that the trainee wasn’t in the wrong just as much as the associate is shocking.... idk if people are trolling but the amount of thumbs up on comments saying things such as “the trainee was free to do as she likes” ..... yes she’s free to pursue other single men but you don’t go after someone who is MARRIED!!!!

"A fake email from a jealous boy if a far more likely source than a spurned partners wife."

How funny. Last week someone suggested that 'Handsy' might have been fitted up by a jealous onlooker, but the theory was shouted down as far-fetched and implausible.

How times change, eh?

21st @ 9.51 - says you, while drooling over other peoples' sex lives.

@Mr John - it could be a hoax, and we do see a lot of allegations made on here that turn out to be false, so its right to question it.

My first thought was that Mrs X might not have sent it, but it seems that the email was sent from Mrs X's account though.

21st @ 9.53 - you've been taught to think and feel that way by other women who want you to be afraid of men and feel that you're in danger all of the time. As to why they do that, you'd have to ask them.

Yes, its possible that a jealous boy or a jealous girl is behind this, or someone out to get the partner, but it does look as if the email came from Mrs X's account.

"I know what I'll do," she said to herself at 3am after six bottles of wine and a truckload of citalopram, "I'll send an e-mail. That'll solve everything."

"We" will be applying for a restraining order? Hhhmmm... I don't think hubby wants one. 

It depends on the truth Lydia. If the trainee did cheat with a married man, then she is more in the wrong than Mrs X, just the same as if she was male.

Not sure what you mean by the data protection breach point, it seems that yhe information was obtained publicly.

Assuming the claims are true, the £13k might have been marital assets. Not many wife's who have been cheated on would think kindly of another women who has had £13k spent on them by the husband. Hard not to say that the trainee is partly to blame (again, if the allegations are true).

22nd @ 11.43 - the trainee was accused of having an affair, but there has been no suggestion that she abused alcohol or prescription medication.

@1.59 - he may or may not, but in a lot of affairs the husband goes back to the wife. The ring and the contract count for a lot.

This is definitely from someone who in real life would be saying "she's just a whore" or "I wasn't interested anyway" or "you're so ugly why you wearing/not wearing makeup" when a woman refused to take out her earbuds to hear his lame come on.

As for the email address, you can open an email account in any name you want.

Or is that a bit to technical for RoF commentators.

"This is definitely from someone who in real life would be saying "she's just a whore" or "I wasn't interested anyway" or "you're so ugly why you wearing/not wearing makeup" when a woman refused to take out her earbuds to hear his lame come on."

Genuinely cannot tell if this frequent poster is (a) a Laura Bates parody doing an OTT Very Online man-hater act, or (b) a slightly loopy misandrist in need of a short course of talking therapy and some more fresh air.

It's right on the Poe's Law line where it's so consistently mad that I feel it has to be a parody, but where it all remains just similar enough to the really nutty end of Twitter to maybe be real.

I mean, I suppose that what I'm really saying is that I can't tell if it's a man being funny by impersonating a crazy lady, or actually just a woman having a breakdown online. I laugh every time, but I don't know if the joke is intentional or not.

@07.43 - we can't say who its definitely from. It may be from a jealous male, but may also be from a jealous female or a female who disapproves of the trainee's conduct (if indeed she did have an affair with a married man).

The email address could have been opened by someone else, but (if this isn't too technical) Mrs X doesn't appear to have denied sending it.

Mrs X is absolutely right, and she should not go anywhere. The home wrecking cheap t  t deserves to be named.

@12.22 - it is possible that Mr X was having an affair with another member of staff, it certainly happens, but there is no evidence that it did.

Firms should have a clear red line on partners ****ing trainees and a presumption that the relationship is exploitative given the very large power imbalance.  At the very least there's a litigation and reputation risk to which no respectable partner would expose their fellow partners.  Plus the internal fallout from these things is costly and upsetting for all involved.

More content like this pls 

26th @ 11.31 - what about trainees ****ing partners. There is a mutual power imbalance, that's quite often the reason for the relationship. Consenting adults should be able to do as they please as long as nobody else is hurt, it their own business, not other partners or office gossips. Both the partner and the trainee should be able to manage things themselves if the relationship ends though.